| Grief Management: What To Say When When Every Other Person Is Crying: What to do, say and avoid in order to bring healing to those who a Contributor(s): Innocent, Bishop O. (Author) |
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ISBN: 1977565050 ISBN-13: 9781977565051 Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform OUR PRICE: $8.54 Product Type: Paperback Published: September 2017 |
| Additional Information |
| BISAC Categories: - Religion | Christian Living - Death, Grief, Bereavement |
| Physical Information: 0.08" H x 5.98" W x 9.02" (0.15 lbs) 40 pages |
| Themes: - Religious Orientation - Christian |
| Descriptions, Reviews, Etc. |
| Publisher Description: WHY THIS BOOK?Graveside oration or homily can be one of the most difficult things for even very matured ministers not to talk of youngsters with little or no experience. The matter is not helped at all by the fact that burials are not what any minister sincerely prays to handle. I have seen ministers praying and fasting just to witness weddings in their ministries but never in my almost thirty years in ministry have I ever heard any minister praying for two things. One, and of a truth, I have heard and seen ministers declare fasting and prayer in their ministries sometimes up to ninety days long, for so many mundane things but I have neither seen nor heard of any who declared fasting for God to hasten the second coming of Christ. Many pastors I know even a whole year without mentioning it one day even for a second. But I guess that is not my major in this book.So over to the second no-go area. I have never heard or seen any minister praying for somebody in the ministry to die so that he can minister and gain experience. We all pray for babies to be born and brides taken in wedlock but not burials. So it is quite understandable why young ministers are often at a loss when it comes to what to do or say to comfort the grieving relations of the man whose remains are in the coffin.Bible colleges and seminaries have not helped the matter either. I attended over three Bible schools before I started working as a pastor. I went first to a two year school and later one year each till I took a doctorate. Altogether, I spent six years pursuing formal education in those Bible schools but none of them prepared us adequately for this challenge. I do remember that once or twice reference was made to burials when we handled ethics and etiquette but nothing in depth. I challenge you to go through the curricular of about ten schools and I assure you it will be a miracle to see one credit hour given to this important subject in up to four out of ten of the colleges.This book is written to make the reader realize that burials are one of the duties of a priest and must not be shied away from though we do not pray for anyone to die in our ministries. We give here, a step by step guide to the officiating minister, especially with regards to what he or she should say to the grieving. Care is taken not to present them as laws but biblical precepts to be followed for enduring results. Like in any other endeavor in life, the minister must be purpose driven and mindful enough of his timelines in order not to prolong the suffering of the family of the bereaved.It must be emphasized here that focus in this book is not on how to conduct a funeral but on what to say to bring healing to the grieved. When this point is grasped, then the book is well on its way to achieving its purpose.We have taken pains to include ten major things a pastor or lay person visiting with the hurting or bereaved may not do. Happy reading. |